on clingy significant others.
Sunday, 6 of May , 2007 @ 7:26 am
Tags: clingy significant others, love, relationships, love schemas
I have completely given up on studying for my Chem 1 exam tomorrow. I mean, I crawled my way through a 2.25 in Chem 16 last semester- I should have at least retained a little of what I slaved for.
So let me just talk about something that’s been bugging me. It’s about couples of the romantic kind. See, there’s nothing wrong with being crazy in love with your significant other. Sometimes, there’s nothing wrong about showing the entire public how crazy in love you are with your significant other. When done with good taste by tasteful people, it looks kind of sweet. Back in high school at dismissal time, I saw our batch’s golden couple sitting on a bench, the girl resting her head on the guy’s shoulder. They were just sitting there, so comfortable enough with each other’s presence that they didn’t need to talk. T’was a lovely sight - the kind that Hallmark cards and picture frame inserts are made of.
However, announcing to an entire mailing list (with a hundred or so members you don’t even know) that you now have a boyfriend/girlfriend; flooding your friends’ Multiply and Friendster bulletin with useless messages on how much you miss your “baby”; displaying pictures of you and him/her making out on ALL your online accounts (along with a hideous layout and Piczo hearts that force-quits even the most stable of browsers) ; calling each other “husband” and “wife” - ugh, god help you. Gushing about your “baby” on your blog or Friendster profile is almost forgivable, almost. But being utterly obsessed with one another and letting the whole world know see it is not.
For instance, there was this guy and girl in a buffet I was eating in. As the girl was getting her food, the guy’s arms were around her waist, like a fricking koala clinging on a eucalyptus tree. I mean, WTF was that? She’s just getting food! That’s not all; to my horror, they remained locked in each others arms while eating. Eating. And to top it all off, in a span of 30 minutes (I was counting), he had kissed her 3 times, and that’s excluding the occasional peck on the cheek. My god. Was he afraid she’d forget he was her boyfriend if he didn’t suck her face every 3 minutes?
This isn’t me being bitter, mind you. This is me being utterly scandalized at how some people cannot seem to live without their boyfriend/girlfriend. I am bothered by people who can’t bear to be separated from someone for even just a few minutes, as if their bodily functions will stop running- as if they need to hear an assurance of their fidelity every minute. I don’t see the point of tagging behind your girlfriend or boyfriend when she/he’s going about doing her business. It’s idiotic. Clingy people are scary. And the literally clingy ones are very, very disturbing. Showing a little affection is all right, but being attached at the hip at all times? Good grief. Life is so much better without a living and breathing appendage.
Category: Love, Rants, Word Vomit
Comment by karen
Made Sunday, 6 of May , 2007 at 7:46 am
Comment by Jake The Miserable
Made Sunday, 6 of May , 2007 at 9:43 am
Buti na lang ako, aminado akong bitter. Masarap maging bitter kasi hindi ka… teka, hindi mo pala itinatanong.
Wala e. Ganu’n talaga ang mag-sing-irog. Wala nang pakialam, o ni hindi man lang masyadong aware sa ginagalawan. E pa’no ang mundo nila e nasa isa’t-isa.
Wala naman talagang masama kung maipakita ng isang couple sa mundo na “sila.” Pero ‘yun nga, kung sobra-sobra nga naman, medyo nakakairita na. Kulang na lang e lapitan mo at alukin mo silang bumida sa isang teenybopper movie. O kaya discount card. Ulk. Super sorry.
MARIELLI: HAHA 
Well, para sa akin maling-mali ang gawin mundo mo ang silang tao, pwera na lang kung ang taong iyon ay iyong sarili. Eh pano yan kung nawala siya, patay na ka? 
Sana naman they can function on their own kahit minsan lang sa buhay nila.
Comment by Chino
Made Sunday, 6 of May , 2007 at 9:56 am
haha
actually I have friends like that and I told them that when they continue doing that in the coming months, they will eventually fall out of love.
Unfortunately, all of my friends who were like that did fall out of love. Good for them. HAHA. Girls don’t need guys who are not confident and clingy.
MARIELLI: Yeah maybe that’s it. They’re insecure and they need to hear how awesome they are from their biggest fans. But I think they fall out of love because they got bored with all that canoodling. haha ;p
Comment by Tiffany
Made Monday, 7 of May , 2007 at 8:34 am
Thank Gawd we don’t have octopuses as pets. 
Comment by Ederic
Made Monday, 7 of May , 2007 at 2:10 pm
Hmmm, isipin ko kung tinamaan ako rito hehe. :p
Comment by Jeric
Made Monday, 7 of May , 2007 at 7:04 pm
Oh, I totally agree with you Marielle! I’ve seen a lot of people like this in our school (thinking that we’re in a Catholic school) and it sucks big time!
Comment by liz
Made Monday, 7 of May , 2007 at 8:35 pm
I love the header and the colors! welcome to the ahm, public blogging world
Comment by Shari
Made Monday, 7 of May , 2007 at 11:15 pm
Normally, mahaba-haba ang isasagot ko sa mga ganito. But since you’ve covered the topic so well, isa na lang masasabi ko maliban sa mga nasabi ko na:
AMEN! Hehe! 
MARIELLI: Heehee c”,) I’m so glad someone agrees!
Comment by Riz
Made Tuesday, 8 of May , 2007 at 3:04 am
Sakto. As I was reading your post, I was transported back to college when PDA seemed as if it’s the “IN” thing.
So okay, I’m just another internet stranger, but welcome to the (lemme coin liz’s term) public blogging world!
MARIELLI: Yay, thanks c”,)
Comment by Tina
Made Tuesday, 8 of May , 2007 at 4:30 am
Same with Shari’s reaction: AMEN!
Whenever I see people displaying their affection in public, I feel embarrassed for them. Couples in the younger batches back in school do that — and my friends and I can’t help but shouting, “MGA BATA PA KAYO!” =)) Oh the fun.
And btw, welcome to [public] blogging.
MARIELLI: Buti ka pa, nahihiya for them c”,) thanks!
Comment by Ches
Made Friday, 11 of May , 2007 at 10:57 pm
Oh my gosh, di ko talaga kaya ang PDA 
Pero eto ‘yun e. According to http://www.psych.uiuc.edu/~rcfraley/attachment.htm and the quiz I took at http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl, I AM ACTUALLY PREOCCUPIED! Ack, di ko kayang tanggapin! RARRR. Di kaya, di kaya!
Realization: Ayoko atang maging appendage.
MARIELLI: Haha! Maybe that’s a part of you you haven’t realized yet.
Comment by Ches
Made Saturday, 19 of May , 2007 at 1:46 am
NOOOOO, seriously. Tas si ano pa “secure” daw. So wrong.
Marielle is a 20-year-old Psychology student at the 
hahah nice one marielle! totally agree!